Keeping Romance Alive - Week 13

We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped.  The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  

This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

Week 13

Rent a sports car with a convertible top. Pretend you are a couple from one of the classics as you tour the coast or countryside with nothing but the wind in your hair.

Don't get married before you read this!

Sex and Intimacy Questions to Consider

With Your Future Spouse

I have to admit that these are not my questions but I think they are a fabulous idea and the questions really relevant. Even if you are already married and battle with intimacy I suggest you ask and answer these questions.

If you are the author of these questions please let me know so I can credit you.

Intimacy questions

·         What does intimacy mean to you?

o   Read and discuss The Five Love Languages. Determine what love languages you and your future spouse speak.

·         Do you think it is important to continue dating after you are married? If so, how often?

·         Do you find it hard to ask for and extend forgiveness to others?

o   To yourself?

o   Do you find it hard to receive forgiveness?

·         Do you know how to discuss differences of opinion in a respectful manner?

·         Do you and your future spouse view issues such as sex, finances and family planning in a similar way?

Sexual questions

·         What is your plan for your first night together?

o   Do you want to try to have full intercourse the first night?

·         Do you know where the hymen is located?

o   Do you wish to have it broken prior to your first night by a gynecologist or to break it together on your first night?

·         Is lingerie exciting to you?

·         Are you comfortable with your body?

·         How do you feel about being naked?

·         What kinds of birth control options do you have and which one would you like to use to begin with?

·         How often do you think it is reasonable for a married couple to have sex?

·         What type of lubrication do you wish to use if there isn’t enough produced naturally?

·         Which sexual practices do you see as unacceptable?

·         Which sexual practices are you uncomfortable with performing even though they may not be Unacceptable?

·         What are your views on giving oral sex?

·         What are your views on receiving oral sex?

·         Swallowing semen?

·         What are your views on anal sex?

·         What are your views on the use of sex toys, such as vibrators?

·         What are your views on masturbation while you are together?

·         What are your views on masturbation while you are apart?

·         What are your views on manually stimulating each other’s genitals?

·         Have you participated in any masturbation until this point in your life?

o   How do you feel about it?

·         What are your views regarding sexual activity during menstruation?

o   Is it to be avoided completely?

o   Should only intercourse be avoided?

·         Do you have any sexual complications in your past?

·         Do you have any sexual abuse in your past?

o    Have you processed the pain (through counseling if necessary) and become free from its power over you?

·         Do you have any fears regarding sex?

·         Are you aware of the process of how a female becomes aroused and responds sexually?

·         Do you know where the clitoris is?

·         Do you know what it does?

·         Are you aware of the process of how a male becomes aroused and responds sexually?

·         Are you aware that there is often a time difference between how long a female needs stimulation and how long a male needs stimulation in order to orgasm?

·         Why is foreplay important?

Keeping Romance Alive - Week 12

We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped.  The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  

This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

Week 12

Watch the sunrise together.

Dignity Dreams

Let me say upfront that I have known Sandra for almost 21 years. She originally thought I was the curtain lady so was polite and gave the curtain lady the most heart warming smile!

Since then she has filled my life with laughter. Nobody works harder for a good cause. When Sandra told me about Dignity Dreams I didn’t pay too much attention – she was drinking tea and I was drinking Red Wine (maybe that’s why). And then inevitably I paid attention.

December is always Lola Montez’s Charity Month. All the proceeds from our Mistress for Christmas Party will this year go to Dignity Dreams. And if you have any of the items lying around please feel free to donate them as well.

If you go to the Dignity Dreams website – www.dignitydreams.com you will see their very humble wish list.

You can also follow them on Facebook

Wish list

·         Sewing machines

·         Over lockers

·         Electric cutters

·         Scissors

·         Colourful polycotton

·         Polyester towelling

·         Sewing cotton

·         Press stud machines

·         Ziplock bags for soiled goods

·         Sponsor our Educational Book

·         Office stationary – paper, postage, cartridges 

The Dignity Dreams Story

‘No Pads = No School’

It’s hard for you and I to imagine that there are 2.1 million young girls, between the ages of 12 and 18 years (living below the poverty line in South Africa), who have to resort to using old clothes, rags, newspapers, leaves, bark and grass because they cannot afford sanitary towels.

The result, according to UNICEF, is that 1 in every 10 schoolgirls in Africa miss classes or drop out of school completely.

Girls who cannot afford pads or tampons miss approximately 5 days of school a month, which amounts to 60 missed school days a year.

There are many aspects that link girls’ attendance to their menstrual cycles. The lack of affordable sanitary products for girls and women keeps them at a disadvantage in terms of education when they are young and prevents their mobility and productivity as women.

Dignity Dreams goal:

Every girl in South Africa deserves access to safe and hygienic sanitary products. Our goal is to help girls / women reclaim the dignity that poverty denies them and enable girls to make a lasting and positive impact on the communities they live in and society as a whole - they will complete high school, will be less likely to get HIV / AIDS or fall pregnant before 18 and will likely earn higher wages and successfully educate their own children.

Their solution:

The solution? ‘Dignity Dreams’ reusable sanitary pads. Reusable sanitary pads are a sustainable resource, allowing girls to wash and reuse them rather than having to buy disposable sanitary pads every month. In addition, they are inexpensive and environmentally friendly. The social benefit of this concept can greatly mitigate the disadvantages many disempowered girls endure during their process of maturing.

Environmental Impact:

‘Dignity Dreams’ reusable sanitary pads are environmentally friendly. Disposable sanitary pads take up to 500 years to disintegrate and are either sent to landfills or go through the sewage system and end up polluting the ocean and beaches.

Tackling Unemployment:

We are very proud of our contribution to lower unemployment - we employ unskilled women in Pretoria, thereby transferring skills and contributing to their economic empowerment.

Helping the poor:

Pads and tampons are too expensive for those earning less than R500 a month. The average pad / tampon costs R1.50, the average girl / woman uses 25 sanitary products during one period = R37.50 per month, R450.00 per year and R900.00 for 2 years. ‘Dignity Dreams’ packs cost R80.00 for 2 years - a saving of R820.00.

‘Dignity Dreams’ packs: 

 ‘Dignity Dreams’ reusable sanitary towels are available in beautiful, feminine packs because every girl deserves to feel confident with what they wear.

Dignity Dreams Pack includes:

o    1 x Drawstring polycotton bag

Made out of colourful polycotton

o    6 x Washable, absorbent pads

A Dignity Dreams pad has a number of layers:

§  2 layers of absorbent towelling

§  1 layer waterproof plastic

§  1 layer polycotton

The pad’s wings are made out of colourful polycotton with a thin layer of plastic between the two layers for extra protection.

Dignity Dreams pads are one size fits all.

o    3 x Panties

You don’t need to buy special panties to use our Dignity Dreams sanitary towels. Dignity Dreams Pads can be worn with ANY pair of panties! It will fit any size or type, except for thongs.

Panties are available in S, M, L, XL.

o    1 x Instruction sheet

Explains how to use the package, as well as directions for wash.

o    1x Plastic bag

A plastic bag is put into every Dignity Dreams pack. This is used to keep soiled pads safe until you are able to wash them.

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We Vibe 4 Plus - Is it worth it?

We-Vibe® 4 Plus

Winner of Erofame Toy of the Year 2014.

Since We Vibe hit the market in 2008 they have won every sex toy award around. It has been the world’s best selling vibrator taking over from Roger the Rabbit from Sex in the City fame.

We have now had 5 versions of the toy, with each version improving on the last. They’ve got smaller and the material used to manufacture the toy has changed from a smooth silicone (everything stuck to it) to a brushed silicone which I personally prefer.

The original We Vibe motors were a bit iffy as well. If you let them go completely flat they died. The motors have got better but we still warn clients not to let them go completely flat.

2014 brings us the We Vibe 4 Plus. It looks and feels the same with one BIG addition - The No. 1 couples vibrator now has an app!

With We-Vibe 4 Plus couples can connect in new, exciting ways — whether you’re in the same room or on a different continent.

This is not the first toy to use the internet to enhance the toy. Doc Johnson had a Rabbit that your partner could control over the net. It never really took off in South Africa but that might have had something to do with our lack of broadband. I wonder if the We Vibe 4 Plus will suffer the same fate. I have not had the opportunity to try it yet. 

The We-Vibe 4 Plus is meant to be used together but I found that I enjoyed it more when I used it on my own. Because it is U shaped and has a remote control the We Vibe is a great hands free toy. With the app you can use it on your own (recommended) or together or apart/together.

If you have a long distance relationship, have access to broadband you are ready to go.

With the We Vibe (any version) it is slim enough to use together during penetrative sex. She gets stimulation to her clitoris and G-spot and he shares the vibe against his penis.

The original We Vibe’s were fiddly but with the remote control addition with We Vibe 3, using the We Vibe has become a lot easier.

With We-Connect™ Control on the We Vibe 4 Plus you get more remote control features and 5 bonus modes. You can control the clitoral and G-spot stimulators independently. The sliders on the control adjusts intensity. And then this is where this toy gets too clever for me.

Make custom vibration playlists. Choose the vibe, duration and intensity. Name the play list, save and play your custom vibe. There’s a vibe that’s just right for you.

Vibration Modes

Additional Modes

You can play with your lover from anywhere in the world. Send a private, secure connect link — no sign-in required.

When used with the We-Connect app, you have 10 modes to choose from. Plus, you can adjust the intensity and create unlimited custom playlists. This sounds simple enough and I’ll let you know how it goes.

The We Vibe 4 plus comes with a compact, body-hugging couples vibrator curved to fit her body and fit snugly in place. Download the We-Connect app off the iTunes or the Android Google Store, connect, customize and control from anywhere.

The Wireless remote controls intensity and mode of the vibrations. It also comes with a discreet storage case that doubles as the charger base. The charger base is USB-powered and it takes 4 hours to fully charge the toy.   

The We Vibe 4 Plus is 100% waterproof . It is Manufactured from Body-safe medical-grade silicone — free from phthalates, latex and BPAEco-friendly. Carbon-neutral manufacturing and USB-fast rechargeable battery. It charges fully in 4 hours for up to 3 hours of pleasure.

The We Vibe 4 Plus also comes with a 1-year warranty which I don’t think is enough. It is an expensive toy and I’d be pretty pissed if it breaks or doesn’t charge after a year!

For the technical junkies out there here are the technical specs.

App tech specs of We-Connect

•         Works with Bluetooth® Smart
•          Ready devices (Bluetooth 4.0 or greater)
•          Compatible Devices
•          iPhone 4s and newer
•          iPod Touch 5th Gen and newer
•          iPad 3rd Gen and newer
•     iPad mini and newer

Select Android™ devices:

•              Android 4.3 and later
•              Bluetooth Smart Ready
•        More info on supported devices:
•        Connectivity

·         Smartphone remote control  requires active Bluetooth connection.

·        

      Distance/shared remote control requires active WiFi or cellular data (3G/4G/LTE) connections on both devices.

Languages

We-Connect is available in English, Chinese/Mandarin, Czech, Dutch, French, German, Japanese, Polish, Portuguese, Russian and Spanish.

Watch this space to find out is I managed to get it to work!

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Bonus modes available on the app

CREST	BOUNCE	SURF
PEAK	CHA-CHA-CHA	MY VIBE

Get to know We-Vibe 4 Plus.

We-Vibe 4 Plus

Feature Summary

App adds smartphone control, more modes, customization and distance play Compact, body-hugging form — stiff mid-section, to stay in place Wireless remote control Compact and discrete case for

storage, charging and

TWO MOTORS

WIRELESS REMOTE

100% WATERPROOF

RECHARGABLE

CONTROL FROM
ANYWHERE

100% MEDICAL-GRADE
SILICONE