Threesomes

Tricky things threesomes!

It is a common fantasy for him and her. If he says he has no interest feel for a pulse!

In my filing cabinet filled with fantasies threesomes, foursomes and greater groups fills at least the first two drawers - FFM (female, female, male) and MMF (male, male, female) being the most common.

It is a safe place that filing cabinet, one I can explore at leisure and without threat. But what happens when you want to take it a step or two further and make the fantasy a reality? Whether this is your fantasy, his or both the first step is that you must both, unconditionally want to. As I said – threesomes can be really tricky!

I know that a threesome is only possible for me with two complete strangers who I know I will never have to see again. I am far too insecure and jealous to share my partner with anyone else, I don’t care how sexy it feels or how much he wants to. But that is me.

I know couples who live the swinger and threesome lifestyle quite comfortably. They are happy and secure and swear that the lifestyle has taken their intimacy to a whole new level.

You want to?

Here are a few guidelines on how to get started. Start slow, talk dirty, share the fantasy – tell each other in detail what is happening. How you have picked the third party, is it a woman or man – who is doing what to whom. With enough imagination just sharing the fantasy verbally makes for an excitingly different orgasm.

You could take this verbal route one step further. How about some hot, dirty three way telephone sex? There are plenty of numbers available in adult magazines or papers. While you and your partner are in the same room with the third party on the other end of the line – this is a safer and very exciting option to explore the fantasy.

Been there done that and you want to feel the flesh? Make sure that you and your partner have discussed this and have agreed that it is something you both want to do for yourselves not for the other partner. Are you both secure enough to deal with the consequences one the game has begun? There is no right or wrong here – only consequence.

Yes? Then the next step is finding a willing participant.

       

You may have a friend that you both fancy. Male or female. Sometimes this can happen almost effortlessly. Dance floors are a great place to get the bump and grind started. If this is not an option you could raise the possibility in a light hearted conversation. 

Keep it light hearted because your friend may be hugely offended by the proposal and look at you in horror, run out the door never to be seen again. If you see the friend moving in this direction you can make a joke out of it and escape unscathed.

You could just pay for it. Arrange to meet the professional in a public place first. You both want to view the goods. If it meets with your approval you can move on. If not, have a drink, a laugh and move on. This is meant to be a fantasy not a nightmare.

The easiest way is to go to a sex or swingers club. The clubs are filled with like minded couples and there is no need to feel shy or embarrassed. You and your partner can take your time to find someone you both find attractive.

Once you have found a willing participant the next awkward step is setting the mood and actually getting down to it. And that is a whole different article which I’ll post soon.

Before you embark on this crusade remember the rules of attraction

• Both parties  have to be physically attracted to each other
• You have to be equally into the idea of having a threesome DON’T  do it just because he or she wants to.
• You have to show respect
• You have to listen to each other’s wants and need
• Remember a safe word
• Have fun

I am going to post a couple more tips on this blog and the www.lolamontez/articles site during the week - so watch out for them.