Raunchy Romance

Raunchy Romance – How to keep the Romance alive!

Many couples want more romance in their relationships and, no, it's not just women, men crave romance, too!

If you want more romance, you have to take an active role in making that romance happen. So instead of waiting for romance to fall into your lap, take steps to make your relationship more fulfilling and intimate this very day?

Here's how:

Be More Direct

If you want to spend more time together or if you want to make a weekly date night, simply say so: Don't bother playing games or trying to make your partner guess what you want. Better yet, book the restaurant and tell your partner where to meet you — it's romantic, proactive, and completely unexpected.

Share Daily Appreciations

It's hard to feel romantic if you’re focusing on all the things they do wrong.  Feel much more connected by shining a light on the wonderful things they do. Daily appreciations are a key part of a healthy relationship. Compliment your partner's body, eyes, parenting skills, intelligence, wit, kissing prowess … anything!

Small Gestures Make a Big Impression

Island vacations and five-star dinners are certainly romantic, but it's the little gestures that feed a relationship and keep your connection strong over the years. Whether it's making coffee for your partner or getting the car started on a cold winter's morning, the little gestures show that you truly care.

Give Your Partner the Gift of "Me" Time

Romance can be hard to come by if your partner is exhausted and overworked. If your partner is stressed and on the verge of a meltdown after a harrowing workweek, give the gift of "me" time by booking a massage appointment for your partner while you watch the kids. You could also simply help to cross things off your partner's to-do list by doing the grocery or dry-cleaning run on your own.

Have a Staycation

No time or money to go out of town on an extravagant trip? No problem. Hire a babysitter for the night and hit a local hotel for a romantic staycation. Pretend to be tourists and take in a dinner or a show, and then spend the rest of the night enjoying your kid-free, adult-only hotel room! Don’t forget to take your Naughty Night Lovers Kit with you. Available from Lola Montez.

Put Special Care into Your Appearance

In long-term relationships, it's not unusual for the lingerie to get replaced by tracksuit pants or the gym to get replaced by couch-surfing. This can chip away at your self-esteem and your own sexual desires, not to mention that of your partner. Put a little extra care into your appearance — even if it's just a swipe of red lipstick (Try Montez 6 or 9 – from their new cosmetic range) or a new hairdo. It will inspire more romance for both you and your partner.

Nag Less, Flirt More

It's a simple equation and one that is bound to add up to more romance. It might be annoying that your partner drips water on the bathroom floor or that they always leave the lights on, but nagging about little things is often futile and only serves to chip away at your romantic connection.

Remember the Excitement

Think about what gave you butterflies in your early days of dating: Then find ways to bring those little things back, whether it was spontaneous sex before work in the morning or steamy date nights at out-of-the way restaurants. When was the last time you didn’t wear underwear or slept naked?

Focus on the Present

Anything that keeps you from being present is going to affect your relationship and your mood, whether you are stressing over the fight you had with your sister yesterday or whether you are dreading a work meeting scheduled for tomorrow. All that worrying is not only useless, but it will only serve to keep you from true inner peace and connecting with your mate. 

Or as a teacher I had once said – If you worry you die, if you don’t worry you die – so why worry? Try yoga or meditation to help keep you grounded, and remember, if you want more romance, the best way to create it is by being present with your partner — right here and now.