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Friday, 26 December 2014
Tell me you love me - Let me count the ways!
I trust you had a wonderful and Blessed Christmas yesterday. I hope that you were with your loved ones and that if you are fortunate enough to be on Holiday that you will travel home safely.
Next week we will continue with our romantic tips - but for today - Just tell everyone you love why you do!
Friday, 19 December 2014
Keeping Romance Alive - Week 16
We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped. The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.
This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.
Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.
Week 16
Lie outside at night and count the stars. Name them.
Wishing you and yours a very Blessed Christmas.
Be safe, be blessed, be grateful!
Friday, 12 December 2014
Keeping Romance Alive - Week 15
We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped. The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.
This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.
Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.
Week 15
Breakfast…or dinner…or both…in bed. Nudity mandatory.
Wednesday, 10 December 2014
Sexy Staycation Ideas
Sexy
Staycation Ideas
If you’re not joining the migration to Plett or Umhlanga
this year and can only afford a Staycation – Fear Not! We have some fantastic
ideas to keep you relaxed, your relationship intimate and fun.
I don’t know about you but the best thing about a vacation
that it breaks the usual daily routines and suddenly you’re doing stuff slower
and at different times. Try to break your daily home habits. Do not do anything
on that list of chores – you’re on holiday remember.
Decide how long your staycation is going to be – I suggest
no less than 5 days, 10 if you can and 21 if you are determined.
Start with the simple stuff – Move your bedroom to a
different room and if you can’t, change the furniture around (just for the
staycation). Spray your sheets with a
linen spray – try coconut it will immediately take you into holiday space.
Get out the candles – thanks to Eskom they are probably
close at hand already.
If you are lucky enough to have a pool, get out the bright
swimming towels, clean the cushions and once again move the outside furniture.
If you usually go to the beach on holiday – go to the pool. Apply sunscreen
every day – nothing says holiday more than sunscreen.
If you don’t have a pool, turn the sprayers on and run
through them like you did when you were a kid. Or get water pistols and have a
game of tag. Water pistols available at Macro or most toy stores.
Wear only the clothes you would on holiday, so get out the
bikini, baggies, T-Shirts, sarongs, shorts and slip slops. Paint your toe nails
a holiday colour, try bright pink.
One of the things I love about going on holiday is the shops
always look so different. Next go shopping. You don’t have to buy anything. Go
to Wimpy for breakfast. Don’t go to your usual Mall – shake it up a bit and go
to the opposite side of town. A trip into the City Centre will make you feel as
if you have gone to some exotic country.
Shop for sexy snack, holiday T-Shirt, lubricant and a toy or
two. Get a Henna Tattoo – not too much commitment but exciting, available at
Salon London in Parkhurst.
Holiday sex is different as well. So if you usually get cozy
in the morning change it to a different time. Many women’s libido peaks at
about three in the afternoon. So send the kids to the pool and you take an
afternoon nap.
Change your usual go to sex position. Introduce a toy into
your play – start small, a Vibrating Cock Ring, an Egg or Bullet is ideal. Lola
Montez has a Naughty Night Starter Kit which contains everything you’ll need
for a naughty night – available in store or online at www.lolamontez.co.za .
Go for an evening walk – round the block, in the park or
simply down the road. Hold hands, stop and kiss, talk about what you see, plan
dinner.
Holiday food is usually simple and easy to prepare or it’s
take out. Do the same on your staycation. Find simple recipes on www.food.com . Cook them together –
sip on a glass of chilled wine, listen to music and turn off the television.
For entertainment – go to movies, eat popcorn and drink
something green. Take a red city bus tour or go for a drive. Don’t take your
usual route – get out and explore.
Invite friends over for the afternoon, drink cocktails and
party hard. Spend the next day in bed – naked, cuddle, explore, nap and eat ice
cream and Raw and Fine Chocolate.
If you have children – play Marco Polo with them in the pool
(it’s what they’ll remember most). Play board games, charades and let them
teach you how to play Playstation. Let each child pick an activity and a
favourite meal. Do it – even if it means Jelly Tots for breakfast, you’re on
holiday remember.
Go to a bookshop and leave notes of encouragement in your
favourite books for future readers. Let the children browse in the children’s
or craft section. Get ideas on what to do with the kids the next day.
If you live in Johannesburg go up in the Balloon in Mushroom
Park. It cannot go up in bad weather so bear that in mind. Mushroom Park and
the Botanical Gardens are beautiful spots for a picnic and a game of soccer or
cricket. Lie on a blanket and look at the clouds. See shapes and tell stories.
Support your local businesses – they are also staying at
home. Take food, clothes, toys, dog or cat food to your charity of choice.
Donate to www.dignitydreams.co.za if you
don’t have a preference.
Put up the biggest Christmas Tree you can. If you have
decorations use them otherwise make them. Paper and popcorn chains work well as
do hollowed out and painted eggs. Go online to get additional ideas try www.hobbycraft.co.uk or www.pintrest.com.
Spend a day making gifts for each other and cards for your
neighbours.
Bake and decorate cupcakes or cookies. Eat the all in one
sitting.
Lie on the grass and look at the stars. Try to spot the
satellites, shooting stars and constellations, you can download an app to show
you what to look for, try Constellation Star Viewer available from your
Smartphone App store.
Try to be on your Staycation for as long as possible. Real
Life and work will take over soon enough.
Try to have as much fun as possible, laugh – who knows this
may just be the best vacation you’ve ever had.
Don't forget to visit Lola Montez - we're open throughout December - for ore details visit www.lolamontez.co.za
Friday, 5 December 2014
Keeping Romance Alive - Week 14
We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped. The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.
This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.
Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.
With a bit of luck you'll be heading off on your summer holidays soon. Keep the romance going!
Week 14
Put a hammock up in your backyard and commit one hour a week to snuggle
time, day or night. No talking allowed.
Wednesday, 3 December 2014
Threesomes
It
is a common fantasy for him and her. If he says he has no interest feel for a
pulse!
In
my filing cabinet filled with fantasies threesomes, foursomes and greater
groups fills at least the first two drawers - FFM (female, female, male) and
MMF (male, male, female) being the most common.
It
is a safe place that filing cabinet, one I can explore at leisure and without
threat. But what happens when you want to take it a step or two further and
make the fantasy a reality? Whether this is your fantasy, his or both the first
step is that you must both, unconditionally want to. As I said – threesomes can
be really tricky!
I
know that a threesome is only possible for me with two complete strangers who I
know I will never have to see again. I am far too insecure and jealous to share
my partner with anyone else, I don’t care how sexy it feels or how much he
wants to. But that is me.
I know couples who live the swinger and threesome
lifestyle quite comfortably. They are happy and secure and swear that the
lifestyle has taken their intimacy to a whole new level.
You
want to?
Here
are a few guidelines on how to get started. Start slow, talk dirty, share the
fantasy – tell each other in detail what is happening. How you have picked the
third party, is it a woman or man – who is doing what to whom. With enough
imagination just sharing the fantasy verbally makes for an excitingly different
orgasm.
You
could take this verbal route one step further. How about some hot, dirty three
way telephone sex? There are plenty of numbers available in adult magazines or
papers. While you and your partner are in the same room with the third party on
the other end of the line – this is a safer and very exciting option to explore
the fantasy.
Been
there done that and you want to feel the flesh? Make sure that you and your
partner have discussed this and have agreed that it is something you both want
to do for yourselves not for the other partner. Are you both secure enough to
deal with the consequences one the game has begun? There is no right or wrong
here – only consequence.
Yes?
Then the next step is finding a willing participant.
You
may have a friend that you both fancy. Male or female. Sometimes this can
happen almost effortlessly. Dance floors are a great place to get the bump and
grind started. If this is not an option you could raise the possibility in a
light hearted conversation.
Keep it light hearted because your friend may be
hugely offended by the proposal and look at you in horror, run out the door
never to be seen again. If you see the friend moving in this direction you can
make a joke out of it and escape unscathed.
You
could just pay for it. Arrange to meet the professional in a public place
first. You both want to view the goods. If it meets with your approval you can
move on. If not, have a drink, a laugh and move on. This is meant to be a
fantasy not a nightmare.
The
easiest way is to go to a sex or swingers club. The clubs are filled with like
minded couples and there is no need to feel shy or embarrassed. You and your
partner can take your time to find someone you both find attractive.
Once
you have found a willing participant the next awkward step is setting the mood
and actually getting down to it. And that is a whole different article which I’ll
post soon.
Before
you embark on this crusade remember the rules of attraction
- Both parties have to be physically attracted to each other
- You have to be
equally into the idea of having a threesome DON’T do it just because he or she wants to.
- You have to show
respect
- You have to listen
to each other’s wants and need
- Remember a safe
word
- Have fun
I am going to post a couple more tips on this blog and the www.lolamontez/articles site during the week - so watch out for them.
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