LCS - Question 45

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Keeping Romance Alive - Week 14

We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped.  The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  

This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

With a bit of luck you'll be heading off on your summer holidays soon. Keep the romance going!

Week 14

Put a hammock up in your backyard and commit one hour a week to snuggle time, day or night.  No talking allowed.

Keeping Romance Alive - Week 13

We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped.  The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  

This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

Week 13

Rent a sports car with a convertible top. Pretend you are a couple from one of the classics as you tour the coast or countryside with nothing but the wind in your hair.

Orgasms – the good, the bad and the great! Part 2

Orgasms – the good, the bad and the great!

Part 2

How to find your Orgasm?

So now we have identified some of the reasons you cannot orgasm we can try to help you along the path to great orgasms.

The medical complications are the easiest to deal with. A visit to your GP, tweaking your medication, sorting out hormone levels is relatively easy to do although many cannot talk to their doctor about the problems they are experiencing – it means you have to talk about sex!

We refer our clients to a sex positive GP we work with and if you want her number just give the Lola Montez Boutique a call on 0861 LOLAMO and we’ll refer you.

Sexual technique is another easy fix. We’ll talk to you about trying different positions, learning new foreplay techniques and how to communicate your needs to your partner.

Try watching Yoni or Lingam Massage DVD’s available in store or read the tips and techniques regularly shared on this blog.

It’s when we get to the mental issues that things get a bit more difficult to resolve. If issues are related to abuse, mental or physical we urge you to seek professional help and again we have several sexologists and therapists we can refer you to. We will also give you some sound solid advise and homework.

The homework starts with you coming to terms with your body. 

You need to start looking at yourself naked and while you’re at it have a really good look at your genitals. 

The easiest way to do this is to lie in an empty bath. Get your mirror and have a really good look at your vagina. Get your fingers involved. Find your clitoris and see how much it looks like a mini penis. Pull the hood back, check your inner and outer labia (the lips). You may need a bit of lube to make it more pleasurable. Try the Montez Play Water Based Lubricant. Check out your vagina entrance and if you’re brave enough insert your fingers and feel how wonderful, soft and velvety your vagina is.

If you are feeling too uncomfortable - stop. There is always later.

Repeat until you are completely comfortable with the process.

Then it’s time to move on – while your fingers are inside see if you can find your G-Spot and then find out what makes you feel good. Everyone’s body is different. Your special spot may be two fingers up and one finger over. If you know what feels good and where to find it you’ll know how to guide your partner.

Try to bring yourself to orgasm just using your hand. If you can great – keep practicing.

See which rhythms or pressures please you most. And then we recommend introducing a vibrator for extra pleasure. Try an Ammunition Bullet, Egg Vibrator or Lelo Nea.

If you still can’t find your orgasm bring out the big guns - The Fairy Wand.

This is a multi speed vibrator in the likeness of the Hitachi Wand. It is electrical so it never goes flat. We love the Fairy Wand for clitoral stimulation because it does not look like a penis but rather like a massager you can use on sore muscles.

This is important especially if you have preconceived ideas about vibrators. We love it more because its vibration is so strong that you needn’t put it anywhere near your genital area to receive extreme pleasure from it. 

And if at first you don’t succeed – just keep trying. But don’t chase the orgasm just enjoy the journey and the rest will follow. When you feel yourself starting to peak finish the orgasm with your hand because let’s face it – your partner is never going to vibrate.

Now you know what you are looking for – it’s time to introduce your partner to the party. We recommend using toys as a special treat. Show your partner what you’ve learnt and guide him. 

Use the vibrator to get you close to orgasm and then let your partner take you over – win – win!

Be sexy - Be safe - Condoms 101

Be sexy – Be safe!

It's easy to have sex safely without sacrificing a good time. 

Here are our tips for staying healthy while having fun:

General Guidelines:

• Use condoms for intercourse (vaginal and anal). We recommend adding a bit of flavour - try the LOVEGLOVE range. Each has a different personality, colour and flavour!
• Use a latex barrier during all types of oral sex. If you don't have access to a dental dam, try Glad Wrap!
• Use latex gloves or finger cots for hand or finger penetration of the vagina or anus. Your nails can contain all sorts of bacteria, not to mention hang nails that can cause damage to sensitive skin.
• Use condoms on sex toys used by more than one person for any type of penetration (change the condom for each person) or on toys that go from anus to vagina. 
• Use only water-based lubricants with latex products. Oil of any kind. Vaseline and hand lotion included, destroys latex. Try MONTEZ PLAY Water Based Lubricant. 
• Steer clear of so-called "water-soluble" lubes, which frequently contain oil. 
• Store Latex products in a cool, dry place.
• Never re-use latex products and avoid using them after the expiration date.
• If you have a latex allergy try the SKYN or Durex Avanti Condoms.

Condoms: 

• Use only latex or polyurethane condoms. Natural skin (lamb intestine) condoms are not effective barriers to viruses. 
• When putting condoms on, pinch the air from the reservoir tip and roll onto the penis or toy. (A trapped air bubble can cause the condom to break.) 
• Uncircumcised men should pull their foreskins back to help prevent the condom from slipping. 
• A drop of lube inside the tip of the condom can enhance sensation for the wearer.  The actual variation in condom size is slight, but features vary between brands, so experiment to see which you like best! 
• Most condoms are lubricated with either a wet, gel or a dry silicone powder. 
• Can't stand the taste of the Condom? Try a flavoured brand. Like LoveGlove.
• Add Lubricant when using a condom during intercourse to reduce friction and the chance of breakage.

And remember the golden rule: 

NO GLOVE - NO LOVE!