LCS - Question 46

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Keeping Romance Alive - Week 23

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and if you've been following our advise for the past 23 Weeks it won't matter what you do you'll be getting all the romance you need. 

Hopefully you've been to the Lola Montez Boutique and purchased some fun toys for tomorrow! 

Having said that here is our romantic tip Week 23

Week 23 
Daytime or nigh time have dinner or lunch on a rooftop somewhere.  Spread a picnic and make sure you won’t be disturbed.

Tell me you love me - Let me count the ways!

I trust you had a wonderful and Blessed Christmas yesterday. I hope that you were with your loved ones and that if you are fortunate enough to be on Holiday that you will travel home safely. 

Next week we will continue with our romantic tips - but for today - Just tell everyone you love why you do!

Keeping Romance Alive - Week 1

We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped. We're tired, grumpy and seem to have lost sight of romance.  

The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, For the next 25 weeks I am going to post a list of things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

Week 1

If you won’t be seeing your partner for a while, tell them you’re concerned and have hired a bodyguard. Give him or her a stuffed teddy bear with an “I Love You” heart on it.

Romantic Date - Love Fortress

Love Fortress

Remember how much fun it was to build a fort when you were a kid? 

Re-create this adventure together. 

Make a date in a tree house, cabin or playhouse. Caves are also romantic. Bring music, wine, and erotic literature to read to each other while you hide away from the rest of the world. 

For something more luxurious you can search online for listings of tree house rentals. 

Do you know the difference between love & lust?

Do you know the difference between LOVE & LUST?

Girls believe in love and are taught that lust is for degenerates and girls you don’t want to be associated with. And so we think that Romantic Comedies are real life (like men believe Porn is real sex!)

We must teach our daughters to masturbate. I can hear the collective gasp from here! Really, still in the 21^st Century!

So let me state my case:

If little girls (and I mean from birth) are taught about how beautiful and precious their bodies are they might treat them with a more respect. Teach them body parts and DON’T cal her vagina her nunu unless you are going to call her nose her smelly welly and her hands her feely wheely! It’s a body part just like any other. The minute you have to call a vagina something else – subconsciously you are starting to layer shame.

Do not discourage her touching herself! It feels good, it always will. There is evidence of a foetus touching itself in intimate places. Now your daughter will probably do it in public and the secret is not to overreact. You have taught her to poo in the toilet. You have taught her how to wipe her bum – from front to back, but you cannot tell her that touching feels good and that it should be done in the privacy of the bedroom or bathroom?

And then respect privacy.

If your daughter is allowed to explore her body for pleasure with no shame she will start to understand that what is happening to her as her body develops and the hormones kick in – is pure biology! Not some magic created by a boy.

She will know that that gorgeous tingly feeling between her legs can happen to her alone. If she knows how to touch herself she will be able to deal with the urges, on her own. So when she goes to movies with some hormone raging teenager and he puts his hand in her lap and she feels that tingly warm feeling – she will know that it is her body’s biology and not some unexplained ‘love’ for the boy in question. So when he asks to ‘sick it in, just a little bit’ because she ‘loves’ him she can make a call based on real information!

Imagine the power of being able to say ‘no, it’s okay thanks!’

Imagine having sex for the first time when you are emotionally ready and it is a conscious choice – not because you think you’re in love – but because you want to!

So teach your daughters to masturbate. Safeguard them from what awaits and see how we protect them from STD’s, teenage pregnancies and inappropriate first marriages!

Romantic Date - Kiss-athon

Kiss-athon

A marathon is ---- km long. Map out your own course around your town on a vacation spot and take a few warm up kisses. 

Then bike or drive the route and snap 26 pictures of the two of you kissing in 26 different locations. 

Give your kiss-athon a scavenger hunt element by developing a list of items that you have to find and kiss in front of along the way. 

Just like after a marathon take a long soak. 

It's Valentine's day

Gifts for Valentine Day

If you have forgotten what today and have not even bought a chocolate - best pop in to Lola Montez and pick up a little something special. 

We have a variety of hampers for him and her. Guaranteed to ensure that you will get lucky!

Romantic Date 4

Spell it out

Find a creative way to say 'I love you' - 

Perhaps you could use shells or golf balls. Or before a romantic walk or drive strategically place a sign along the route. 

Place a personal advert in the paper your partner reads, leave a note in the briefcase, lunch box or jacket pocket. When cooking use the peas, mash or fries. 

At bed time use rose petals - silk ones work best - available at Lola Montez. Mmm.

Romantic Date 2

Good in bed

Have a breakfast date in bed. 

Make up the bed with fresh, crisp linen. Prepare heart shaped pancakes or French Toast together with fresh fruit, warm muffins and champagne and orange juice. 

Serve on trays with a vase of flowers, linen napkins and your iPad or newspaper which you will read to each other. (Erotica always works). 

After the feast you may want to nap, do a crossword, cuddle or something more... intimate! 

How to play and stay together.

Couples who play together - Stay together.

I've often wondered what it is that keeps couples together and I'm not talking about those couples who stay together 'for the children' or because they cannot afford to get divorced. I'm talking about those couples who beam and giggle and appreciate each other. 

I've watched those happy couples and here is one thing that I have noticed - they play together.

An outsider can see the electricity between them and more important - the intimacy between them. Emotional intimacy, commitment, trust and meaningful communication seems to encourage and enhance their sense of fun.

I've also noticed that each part of the pair is independent and confident. They both have equal power in the relationship. They can drift apart at a function and then come back together and there is never any doubt that they are there together.

I have no doubt that they can both spend time alone. Solitude gives us the space we need for reflection and growth. It gives us a place to think about how things are and what part we play in them. Respecting your partner's alone time requires trust.

And then you have to spend time together and I don't mean in the same room distracted and self absorbed. 

Set aside at least 20 minutes a day to connect and date night once a week. This is the time when neither of you look at your phone, email, messages, Whatsap, Facebook or Twitter. 

Sometimes I think we are more intimate with our gadgets than we are with our partners. I don't remember the last time I was in a restaurant when one or both of the couples I have watched have not been busy on their phone and ignoring their beautiful partner with them at the table. You will not die if you don't look at your phone for an hour or two!

Compliment your partner. I read an alleged quote by Brad Pitt, he was talking about his relationship with Angelina Jolie. He said that she was getting really thin, was slipping into depression and a couple of other things I cannot remember and he didn't know how to fix it. Then he remembered that he was married to the most beautiful woman in the world and he needed to remind her. So he started buying her flowers, telling her how beautiful she is, what a great mum, what a fantastically sexy wife and he took every opportunity to speak about her to everybody about how great she is. And she responded positively.

I think relationships can be really easy - Men want to be desired and women want to be gorgeous. Just imagine the fun we could have with our partner if this is how they made us feel. Just remember that words alone don't count - it's the way you say it and the things you do to support the words that count too.

OhmiBod Club Vibe

Make an effort. Stay connected during the day. Now you are allowed to play with your trusty smart phone. Send a message - photo - quote, anything that will indicate that you may be up for it. Buy a sexy pair of panties, a new toy from Lola Montez. Book a couples evening to learn a new trick or two.

Je Joue Mio VCR

Learn to give and receive love. We are usually very good at giving and very bad at receiving. I'm told that it has something to do with self esteem. 

Intimacy begins with being comfortable with who you are. If you are too afraid to reveal the true you you will never feel safe enough to discuss your desires or fears never mind sharing and playing out fantasies. If you are too afraid to share the vulnerable bits you will never be able to play together.

Don't ever make fun of or humiliate your partner. NOT EVER. The damage you will do to your relationship will be irreparable. Before you play you need to know you are safe and that your partner is going to laugh with you not at you.

Be silly together. When last did you dance in the rain? Lie on the lawn and look at the clouds or the stars? Picnic in the middle of the lounge with no TV? Have sex in the Kitchen or on the bathroom floor? Send the children to friends for a couple of hours so you can have slow afternoon sex? Well now is the time.

Every day this month I am going to post a date idea for you to try. Save them, remember them and by all means do them.

February is the Month of Love. May this month of love be a rebirth and a commitment to more fun because we all know that couples who play together - stay together!