Wet and Wild
When it comes to sex, the wetter the better, and with summer
approaching, being on holiday, near a beach is almost all I can think about.
Long lazy days, catching a tan, swimming and afternoon sex. Oh what I’d give
for holiday, afternoon sex!
Ask anyone about fantasy sex and water is almost always
close at hand. Think sex in the Jacuzzi sipping cocktails. Making love on a
moonlit beach can be the height of romance for some. Personally I think it’s overrated
with sand getting in places I’d rather it didn’t.
An underwater striptease game can be silly, playful and very
sexy. Dressing up as a pirate and role playing a nautical fantasy could also do
it for you.
Wetness is an essential addition to any play, whether you
need a little extra help with lubrication or not. A bottle of lubricant should
never be very far from hand. Nothing distresses me more than women who come
into the store and ask for a product to dry out their vagina. I’ve heard of
women using bark or bleach to ‘clean’ their intimates.
The vagina is like a self cleaning oven. It does not need
anything to clean itself. It doesn’t require douching, soap rinsing or sprays.
It simply needs an external wash with warm water and if you feel you have to
use soap ensure that it is the most gentle you can find.
Like water itself sexuality can be fluid. If I use myself as
an example, my sexuality has changed several times. What I liked then, doesn’t
work for me now and that’s okay. Sometimes I’m ice and then baby I steam!
So let’s consider the possibilities of aquatic play and why
so many of us find it so arousing. Water or liquid is at the heart of most
sexual encounters. When you’ve had a hot, passionate session you should be left
with a glow. I don’t think there is anything sexier, and the salty taste that
accompanies the work out!
When it comes to sex, water is associated with many
fantasies, think pirate or mermaid and what about the ultimate test of man –
the siren who in Greek Mythology lured sailors to their destruction. Sea views
are sexy. Showers can turn into steamy sexual encounters. Try keeping his eyes
off a wet T-Shirt and a simple glass of water sipped and shared holds appeal.
Getting wet is one of the simplest ways to heat up your sex
life.
In the early days of my exploration I had a water massage.
Picture a warm swimming pool, you can be naked or not. The massage therapists
usually work in pairs so you receive a massage floating in water with hands
touching you on both sides of your body at the same time. The massage ends with
you being held like you would a small child. I found the whole experience
liberating and comforting. Had my partner been present it would have been very,
very sensual.
Our bodies produce all sorts of fluids while we’re having
sex. From sweat to saliva and a whole lot in between so its not unusual that we
find wetness and water arousing.
I was brought to this stark realization
recently by an anonymous caller. He sounds polite enough with his fake American
accent. The question he leads with is ‘Do you sell masturbation gels?’ The
first time i was very polite and answered all his questions and then I realized
that he was either using my voice as part of his fantasy or it was a
prank. And then he called again and again!
I wasn’t so pleasant the third time round, so when he asked me what the
lubricant looked like, I just had to say spit! I now recognize his number and
greet him by a nickname I have given him.
My point is saliva. We share it, use it and it makes a frequent
guest appearance in movies. Not my favourite form of lubricant which is why we
sell so many varieties. You will find one for every occasion. Water based is
best for toys, silicone is best for water and anal play and oil based is
kryptonite for latex.
There are several games you can play in the shower, bath,
Jacuzzi or pool. In the pool, blindfold your partner and play a sexy come
hither game of Marco Polo. Ice in the Jacuzzi plays with temperature and
writing sexy fantasies on your partner’s back in the bath can lead some
marvellous adventures.
There is a jelly bath product on the market which you can
either use in your bath or a kiddy pool – ever had a jelly wrestling fantasy.
Or how about rubbing each other with baby oil and wrestling on rubber sheets or
towels. The loser has to pay a penalty.
And if you want to get really messy try some body chocolate
using your partner as a canvas – then lick away the evidence. You may have to
get rid of the stickiness with a sponge bath or steamy shower.
Keeping your sex life steamy and healthy doesn’t just
happen. It requires work, imagination and planning. The same goes for water
play. You need to plan it, so stock up this weekend and get ready for making a
splash.
