Friday 26 December 2014

Tell me you love me - Let me count the ways!



I trust you had a wonderful and Blessed Christmas yesterday. I hope that you were with your loved ones and that if you are fortunate enough to be on Holiday that you will travel home safely. 

Next week we will continue with our romantic tips - but for today - Just tell everyone you love why you do!

Friday 19 December 2014

Keeping Romance Alive - Week 16

We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped.  The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  

This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

Week 16
Lie outside at night and count the stars. Name them.


Wishing you and yours a very Blessed Christmas.
Be safe, be blessed, be grateful!


Friday 12 December 2014

Keeping Romance Alive - Week 15


We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped.  The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  

This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

Week 15
Breakfast…or dinner…or both…in bed.  Nudity mandatory.

Wednesday 10 December 2014

Sexy Staycation Ideas

Sexy Staycation Ideas



If you’re not joining the migration to Plett or Umhlanga this year and can only afford a Staycation – Fear Not! We have some fantastic ideas to keep you relaxed, your relationship intimate and fun.

I don’t know about you but the best thing about a vacation that it breaks the usual daily routines and suddenly you’re doing stuff slower and at different times. Try to break your daily home habits. Do not do anything on that list of chores – you’re on holiday remember.
Decide how long your staycation is going to be – I suggest no less than 5 days, 10 if you can and 21 if you are determined.

Start with the simple stuff – Move your bedroom to a different room and if you can’t, change the furniture around (just for the staycation).  Spray your sheets with a linen spray – try coconut it will immediately take you into holiday space.

Get out the candles – thanks to Eskom they are probably close at hand already.
If you are lucky enough to have a pool, get out the bright swimming towels, clean the cushions and once again move the outside furniture. If you usually go to the beach on holiday – go to the pool. Apply sunscreen every day – nothing says holiday more than sunscreen.
If you don’t have a pool, turn the sprayers on and run through them like you did when you were a kid. Or get water pistols and have a game of tag. Water pistols available at Macro or most toy stores.

Wear only the clothes you would on holiday, so get out the bikini, baggies, T-Shirts, sarongs, shorts and slip slops. Paint your toe nails a holiday colour, try bright pink. 

One of the things I love about going on holiday is the shops always look so different. Next go shopping. You don’t have to buy anything. Go to Wimpy for breakfast. Don’t go to your usual Mall – shake it up a bit and go to the opposite side of town. A trip into the City Centre will make you feel as if you have gone to some exotic country.

Shop for sexy snack, holiday T-Shirt, lubricant and a toy or two. Get a Henna Tattoo – not too much commitment but exciting, available at Salon London in Parkhurst.

Holiday sex is different as well. So if you usually get cozy in the morning change it to a different time. Many women’s libido peaks at about three in the afternoon. So send the kids to the pool and you take an afternoon nap.

Learn a new sex technique on www.isexed.co.za , practice.
Change your usual go to sex position. Introduce a toy into your play – start small, a Vibrating Cock Ring, an Egg or Bullet is ideal. Lola Montez has a Naughty Night Starter Kit which contains everything you’ll need for a naughty night – available in store or online at www.lolamontez.co.za .

Go for an evening walk – round the block, in the park or simply down the road. Hold hands, stop and kiss, talk about what you see, plan dinner.

Holiday food is usually simple and easy to prepare or it’s take out. Do the same on your staycation. Find simple recipes on www.food.com . Cook them together – sip on a glass of chilled wine, listen to music and turn off the television.

For entertainment – go to movies, eat popcorn and drink something green. Take a red city bus tour or go for a drive. Don’t take your usual route – get out and explore.

Invite friends over for the afternoon, drink cocktails and party hard. Spend the next day in bed – naked, cuddle, explore, nap and eat ice cream and Raw and Fine Chocolate.

If you have children – play Marco Polo with them in the pool (it’s what they’ll remember most). Play board games, charades and let them teach you how to play Playstation. Let each child pick an activity and a favourite meal. Do it – even if it means Jelly Tots for breakfast, you’re on holiday remember.

Go to a bookshop and leave notes of encouragement in your favourite books for future readers. Let the children browse in the children’s or craft section. Get ideas on what to do with the kids the next day.

If you live in Johannesburg go up in the Balloon in Mushroom Park. It cannot go up in bad weather so bear that in mind. Mushroom Park and the Botanical Gardens are beautiful spots for a picnic and a game of soccer or cricket. Lie on a blanket and look at the clouds. See shapes and tell stories.

Support your local businesses – they are also staying at home. Take food, clothes, toys, dog or cat food to your charity of choice. Donate to www.dignitydreams.co.za if you don’t have a preference.

Put up the biggest Christmas Tree you can. If you have decorations use them otherwise make them. Paper and popcorn chains work well as do hollowed out and painted eggs. Go online to get additional ideas try www.hobbycraft.co.uk or www.pintrest.com.

Spend a day making gifts for each other and cards for your neighbours.

Bake and decorate cupcakes or cookies. Eat the all in one sitting.

Lie on the grass and look at the stars. Try to spot the satellites, shooting stars and constellations, you can download an app to show you what to look for, try Constellation Star Viewer available from your Smartphone App store.

Try to be on your Staycation for as long as possible. Real Life and work will take over soon enough.

Try to have as much fun as possible, laugh – who knows this may just be the best vacation you’ve ever had.


Don't forget to visit Lola Montez - we're open throughout December - for ore details visit www.lolamontez.co.za

Friday 5 December 2014

Keeping Romance Alive - Week 14

We live in a day and age where lives are busy and schedules are swamped.  The working day is also a little more versatile than it has been in days past, and people are working longer hours or irregular shifts.  

This can put a damper on your love life, but this should not discourage you from enjoying you and your partner no matter what time of day it is.  

Romance is not just for evenings anymore, and here we have a list of 25 things you can do during the day, or during the evening that will help ensure you make the most of every second with your lover.

With a bit of luck you'll be heading off on your summer holidays soon. Keep the romance going!



Week 14
Put a hammock up in your backyard and commit one hour a week to snuggle time, day or night.  No talking allowed.

Wednesday 3 December 2014

Threesomes





It is a common fantasy for him and her. If he says he has no interest feel for a pulse!

In my filing cabinet filled with fantasies threesomes, foursomes and greater groups fills at least the first two drawers - FFM (female, female, male) and MMF (male, male, female) being the most common.

It is a safe place that filing cabinet, one I can explore at leisure and without threat. But what happens when you want to take it a step or two further and make the fantasy a reality? Whether this is your fantasy, his or both the first step is that you must both, unconditionally want to. As I said – threesomes can be really tricky!

I know that a threesome is only possible for me with two complete strangers who I know I will never have to see again. I am far too insecure and jealous to share my partner with anyone else, I don’t care how sexy it feels or how much he wants to. But that is me.

I know couples who live the swinger and threesome lifestyle quite comfortably. They are happy and secure and swear that the lifestyle has taken their intimacy to a whole new level.

You want to?

Here are a few guidelines on how to get started. Start slow, talk dirty, share the fantasy – tell each other in detail what is happening. How you have picked the third party, is it a woman or man – who is doing what to whom. With enough imagination just sharing the fantasy verbally makes for an excitingly different orgasm.

You could take this verbal route one step further. How about some hot, dirty three way telephone sex? There are plenty of numbers available in adult magazines or papers. While you and your partner are in the same room with the third party on the other end of the line – this is a safer and very exciting option to explore the fantasy.

Been there done that and you want to feel the flesh? Make sure that you and your partner have discussed this and have agreed that it is something you both want to do for yourselves not for the other partner. Are you both secure enough to deal with the consequences one the game has begun? There is no right or wrong here – only consequence.

Yes? Then the next step is finding a willing participant.
       
You may have a friend that you both fancy. Male or female. Sometimes this can happen almost effortlessly. Dance floors are a great place to get the bump and grind started. If this is not an option you could raise the possibility in a light hearted conversation. 

Keep it light hearted because your friend may be hugely offended by the proposal and look at you in horror, run out the door never to be seen again. If you see the friend moving in this direction you can make a joke out of it and escape unscathed.

You could just pay for it. Arrange to meet the professional in a public place first. You both want to view the goods. If it meets with your approval you can move on. If not, have a drink, a laugh and move on. This is meant to be a fantasy not a nightmare.

The easiest way is to go to a sex or swingers club. The clubs are filled with like minded couples and there is no need to feel shy or embarrassed. You and your partner can take your time to find someone you both find attractive.

Once you have found a willing participant the next awkward step is setting the mood and actually getting down to it. And that is a whole different article which I’ll post soon.

Before you embark on this crusade remember the rules of attraction
  • Both parties  have to be physically attracted to each other
  • You have to be equally into the idea of having a threesome DON’T  do it just because he or she wants to.
  • You have to show respect
  • You have to listen to each other’s wants and need
  • Remember a safe word
  • Have fun
I am going to post a couple more tips on this blog and the www.lolamontez/articles site during the week - so watch out for them.