Raunchy Romance – How to keep the Romance alive!
Many couples want more romance in their relationships and,
no, it's not just women, men crave romance, too!
If you want more romance, you have to take an active role in
making that romance happen. So instead of waiting for romance to fall into your
lap, take steps to make your relationship more fulfilling and intimate this
very day?
Here's how:
Be More Direct
If you want to spend more time together or if you want to
make a weekly date night, simply say so: Don't bother playing games or trying
to make your partner guess what you want. Better yet, book the restaurant and
tell your partner where to meet you — it's romantic, proactive, and completely
unexpected.
Share Daily Appreciations
It's hard to feel romantic if you’re focusing on all the
things they do wrong. Feel much more
connected by shining a light on the wonderful things they do. Daily
appreciations are a key part of a healthy relationship. Compliment your
partner's body, eyes, parenting skills, intelligence, wit, kissing prowess …
anything!
Small Gestures Make a Big Impression
Island vacations and five-star dinners are certainly
romantic, but it's the little gestures that feed a relationship and keep your
connection strong over the years. Whether it's making coffee for your partner
or getting the car started on a cold winter's morning, the little gestures show
that you truly care.
Give Your Partner the Gift of "Me" Time
Romance can be hard to come by if your partner is exhausted
and overworked. If your partner is stressed and on the verge of a meltdown
after a harrowing workweek, give the gift of "me" time by booking a
massage appointment for your partner while you watch the kids. You could also
simply help to cross things off your partner's to-do list by doing the grocery
or dry-cleaning run on your own.
Have a Staycation
No time or money to go out of town on an extravagant trip?
No problem. Hire a babysitter for the night and hit a local hotel for a
romantic staycation. Pretend to be tourists and take in a dinner or a show, and
then spend the rest of the night enjoying your kid-free, adult-only hotel room!
Don’t forget to take your Naughty Night Lovers Kit with you. Available from
Lola Montez.
Put Special Care into Your Appearance
In long-term relationships, it's not unusual for the
lingerie to get replaced by tracksuit pants or the gym to get replaced by
couch-surfing. This can chip away at your self-esteem and your own sexual
desires, not to mention that of your partner. Put a little extra care into your
appearance — even if it's just a swipe of red lipstick (Try Montez 6 or 9 –
from their new cosmetic range) or a new hairdo. It will inspire more romance
for both you and your partner.
Nag Less, Flirt More
It's a simple equation and one that is bound to add up to
more romance. It might be annoying that your partner drips water on the
bathroom floor or that they always leave the lights on, but nagging about
little things is often futile and only serves to chip away at your romantic
connection.
Remember the Excitement
Think about what gave you butterflies in your early days of
dating: Then find ways to bring those little things back, whether it was
spontaneous sex before work in the morning or steamy date nights at out-of-the
way restaurants. When was the last time you didn’t wear underwear or slept
naked?
Focus on the Present
Anything that keeps you from being present is going to
affect your relationship and your mood, whether you are stressing over the
fight you had with your sister yesterday or whether you are dreading a work
meeting scheduled for tomorrow. All that worrying is not only useless, but it
will only serve to keep you from true inner peace and connecting with your
mate.
Or as a teacher I had once said – If you worry you die, if you don’t
worry you die – so why worry? Try yoga or meditation to help keep you grounded,
and remember, if you want more romance, the best way to create it is by being
present with your partner — right here and now.
