Lola Montez Date Night - TONIGHT!

Tonight Lola Montez Couple are in for a very special treat!

Romantic Date - Loving Lunches

Loving Lunches

If you can't have lunch with your partner in person, be there in spirit. 

Once a week or whenever they need a pick me up pack a special bag of lunch with their favourite food, a love note and an extra treat (sexy photo etc). 

Romantic Date - Make a Scene

Make a Scene

Together make a list of your all time favourite romantic films. 

What makes these films so memorable? Is it a particular scene? A line? A location? Or a look? 

Write the film's title and a brief summary of what makes it hot. Put these slips of paper in a hat and every Friday night or so, close your eyes and pull one out. 

Plan a date based on the film. For example: Amelie - you could go to a French restaurant and plot all sorts of charming and kind acts to perform anonymously.

Romantic Date - Sunset

Sunset o Rama

Become sunset connoisseurs. 

Make a plan to watch sunsets from scenic locations. One sunset may be close to home and the next further. You could turn this into an ongoing project. 

Take photos as a keep sake. 

Romantic Date - Story of us

Story of us

Take turns being director, reporter, and camera person and make a video about the story of your relationship. 

Include shots of where you met, where you went on your first dates and other special places. Interview friends and family and ask them to talk about your relationship and why the two of you are good together. 

As your relationship progresses you may want to make a sequel. 

Romantic Date - Go Away

Go Away

Find a last minute deal online for plane tickets and a hotel and jet off for a weekend getaway to somewhere warm and sunny with only 24 hours notice. 

Each of you should board the plane with the clothes you are wearing, a bathing suit, a toothbrush and sunscreen. 

Keep your agenda simple: Drink cool drinks, naps, lazy swims and walks on the beach. The spontaneity of your trip and your freedom from excess baggage will give your relationship a surefire injection of romance and adventure. 

Romantic Date - The Art of Love

The Art of Love

Round up some art supplies - paint, scissors, clay, paper, glitter and each create a work of art that symbolizes something about your relationship. 

Or visit an exhibition or bookshop and browse full colour tomes featuring artists known for their sensual works such as Egon Schiele, Georgia O'Keeffe and Robert Mapplethorpe. 

Which do you like or dislike about these.

Romantic Date - Kiss-athon

Kiss-athon

A marathon is ---- km long. Map out your own course around your town on a vacation spot and take a few warm up kisses. 

Then bike or drive the route and snap 26 pictures of the two of you kissing in 26 different locations. 

Give your kiss-athon a scavenger hunt element by developing a list of items that you have to find and kiss in front of along the way. 

Just like after a marathon take a long soak. 

Romantic Date - Love Bites

Love Bites

Host a dinner for two without any utensils. Instead feed each other with your fingers. You might want to eat a meal of your favorite finger foods or try something absurd like a fondue feast. 

Prepare a platter of vegetables, roast meats and, chunks of crispy bread dipping them into melted cheese or sauce. For dessert slice some fruit, cake, meringues and dip them into chocolate. Experiment with different foods and see just how sexy food can be. 

Keep a large wet cloth handy for any accidents. 

Romantic Date - Strangers in the Night

Strangers in the Night

Arrange to meet with your partner at a specific time and place: a bar, a park, a museum - ideally a location that neither of you is used to. 

Create new identities for yourselves and pretend you've never seen each other before. Dress to fit your character. 

Initiate flirting by sending each other a drink or approaching with a pick up line. Have fun playing 20 questions to find out about their identity. If you like this new person consider asking them out for dinner or to do some activity you've never tried together. 

If you really like these characters bring them out to play again.

Romantic Date - Full Moon Fun

Full Moon Fun

Each month's full moon can light the way for a great date, no matter what the season. 

Get moonstruck in your own garden, park or beach depending on the season sip either champagne, sherry, hot chocolate, eat sexy food - oysters, strawberries, cherries, chocolate. 

Bring some tunes especially moon tunes - ' Moonlight Serenade, Moon Dance or Fly me to the Moon' to name a few. 

Dance and take a moment to howl at the moon - in duet.

Top tips to being the Oral Sex Goddess!

It’s a Gift

This may come as a surprise but oral sex is a gift, not an obligation and as with any gift, if you don't enjoy giving it, the value is greatly diminished. So either reconsider or learn some techniques that will make it pleasurable.

Since it is a gift, you are the one making the choices. You are not obligated to do any particular technique or to allow him to use you as an object.

Some men grab onto a woman's head during oral sex and start thrusting. If you don't like something he's doing, let him know and move on to something else. This is your gift.

The Goddess is in Charge

Part of what really turns a man on about oral sex is that he is giving up control to someone else. A large part of the sexual experience is that exchange of power. When it comes to sex, women don’t often realise it but they have an enormous amount of power.

So, as you perform oral sex make sure that he knows that you are in charge of the process, that you are confident in your ability to bring him to orgasm on your terms and your timing, and that he can trust you to give him a better orgasm than he's ever had before.

Men Are Visual Creatures

Men love to look. They process a lot of their information directly through their eyes. So, if you want to give your partner a super experience, provide visuals for him. Look him in the eye and use your face to convey your enjoyment of what you are doing and the way he's responding. The look you’re aiming for is the same as when you spot the best pair of shoes you have ever seen.

Position yourself so that he gets a good look at you, particularly the areas he's attracted to, such as the breasts.

Recreating the Vagina

When you are giving a blow job you are creating the sensation of being inside a vagina—without actually using a vagina so pressure and wetness are important.

Ideally, vaginas fit snugly around the penis. This translates into the sensations of friction (rubbing) and pressure. So you want to match the sensation with your hands or lips and tongue.

An aroused vagina is wet. Using lubricant on your hands is an essensual. Spit will work but it’s just not sexy!

  

Communication Is Key

When you are giving a hand or blow job, it's paramount that you maintain communication with your partner so that you can find out what works and what doesn't in arousing him and controlling the pace of the orgasm.

Men focus on the experience, rather than the techniques. The best place to have him is at that point when he doesn't know whether he wants to watch or close his eyes and feel. 

Chances are that afterwards, he won't remember exactly what happened, how it happened, or when. You'll need to keep track of that, so that you can continue to improve your technique.

Methods of communication that you can use:

Eye contact - One of the secrets to great oral sex is making eye contact with your lover. When you look at him, you can gauge his responses better. This will help you learn what works and what doesn't.

By looking at him, you can communicate your enjoyment in pleasing him. He needs to know that you like pleasuring him. It helps to establish your control over the situation.

Facial Expression - Along with eye contact, use your face to show how much you are enjoying yourself. Imagine yourself a film actress and that you are a giving a close-up just for him.

Body Language - Your body can express a lot just in the way you are sitting or moving. If you lean towards him, you'll convey your desire to be closer to him. If you move back, you can signal your desire to slow down.

Your hands can speak, with the way they touch him. But don't think you are limited to hands. You have arms, feet, legs, and torso to work with. Be imaginative.

Verbalization - Finally, there is verbalization. Words, talking, even moans or grunts can convey much of what you are feeling.

Ask him questions. Ask if he likes what you're doing. Ask him if he wants more. Ask him to tease you or stimulate you back. Tell him what to do. Use your voice to control him.

Tease him by telling him what you are planning to do. Don't be afraid to talk dirty to him. A lot of men love that. Praise him, especially his penis. Express your amazement at its size, power, hardness.

Listen for the ‘dolphin’ – the high pitched double squeak. It usually means NO! You’re in the wrong place.

Lubricant, Lubricant and did I mention lubricant! Lubrication makes everything easier. The more moisture you have around, the easier it is to slide your hands over the penis, or to move the penis into your mouth.

When you become sexually aroused, you'll produce a wetness that is the perfect natural lubricant. The trouble, you can't always produce it on demand. 

Another natural lubricant is saliva but as I’ve said before – spitting in your hand is just not sexy! Keep trying to salivate all night and you'll end up dehydrated so just get yourself a good lube. 

Try a flavoured lube from Intimate Organics or a Montez Play Water Based Lubricant. 

Next time - Oral sex techniques.

Romantic Date - Downward Dog

Downward Dog

Take a Yoga or Pilates class for couples together. 

You'll learn a series of stretches that you and your partner can do together. Practice the stretches in beautiful settings. 

As you get in touch with your bodies you might feel inspired to learn more about meditation, breathing techniques and tantric sex. 

Okay let's not get me started about Tantra!

Romantic Date 23 - Camping?

Set up camp

Camping with your partner can be romantic but who says you need to leave home to do it? 

If you aren't the outdoor adventure type or just don't have time to get to the great out doors build a tent out of sheets and chairs in your living room. 

Make s'mores, play a CD of nature sounds as background music. Share a sleeping bag or blankets. Turn out the lights, light candles or use flashlights. Watch a scary movie, make up ghost stories and hold each other tight. 

Romantic Date 20 - Thrill Seekers

Thrill Seekers

Break out of the dinner and a movie routine and plan a daring date. 

Try a trapeze class, climb a volcano, ride the biggest roller coaster, take a weekend wilderness survival course, go white-water kayaking or sign up for a daylong race car driving session. 

Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new together will give your relationship a real adrenalin rush - and a hint of danger can be very sexy. 

Romantic Date 18 - Kiss me quick!

Kissing Signals

Before you and your partner go out for the evening make a pact to kiss each time someone - the waiter, a guest at a party or anyone else you encounter - says a certain word or phrase or each time you see a particular item. 

Stick with a kissing theme for the whole date. 

Romantic Date 17 - Silence is Golden

Say nothing at all

Discover the sexiness of silence. 

Plan a date during which neither of you are allowed to speak. Figure out alternatives to verbal communication. 

Use your bodies, make up your own hand signs or scribble notes. 

Spend the afternoon in a row boat. Soak in a hot tub and listen to music. Go on a hike and pay attention to the sounds. Make notes as you go along.

At the end of the date break the silence and discuss all the happenings. 

Romantic Date 14 - Modern Adventurers

Be modern adventurers

Play Burton and Livingstone in your own back garden and plan a date devoted to exploring areas in your city or province that you have never seen before. 

Drive down a road in your town that you've never traveled before but always thought about or didn't even know was there. 

You might find a hole in the wall cafe, a wonderful antique shop, a beautiful row of houses or a scenic vista. Ask friends, read guide books or local magazines for ideas.

Romantic Date 12 - Love Potion

Love Potion

Gather a stash of your favourite drink ingredients and spend an evening mixing, tasting and perfecting your own signature cocktail. It doesn't have to have alcohol in it. 

It can be a smoothie or energy drink. Have plenty of ice, clean cocktail glasses, bar towels, and extras like lemon and limes on hand. 

Make toasts, sentimental and funny - to each other. Next time you're at your favourite bar teach the bartender to make your signature drink so he'll know what to make when you say - 'Our usual please!'

Romantic Date 9

Play Hooky

Take a break from your usual weekday routine. 

If you can take a vacation day midweek together. While its business as usual for everyone else, you and your partner are shaking things up in your own little universe. 

You'll feel a thrill writing your own 'get out of jail free' pass for the day and doing whatever your hearts desire. Go to the movies, have a lazy three hour lunch, spend the afternoon in bed. 

Don't try to do a zillion things instead relax and see where it takes you.