Romantic Date 25 - F*** Valentine's Day

Everyday Acts

Sometimes the most romantic moments are the result of thoughtful gestures in the middle of a mundane day. 

Spend the day helping your partner take care of necessary errands, particularly the ones they really don't enjoy doing. Wash the car, go to the hardware store, attend to the shopping, dry cleaning. Once you've finished celebrate by taking your partner to lunch or dinner at a place that they've always wanted to try. 

Remembering the other's interest and curiosities is another great way to be romantic. 

So we come to the end of the month of love and I will now go back to a far more reasonable weekly post! I will continue to give you more romantic ideas.

So spread the love!

Romantic Date 24 - Be a kid again

Kidding Around

Plan a date where the two of you get to be kids again. 

Go to a playground and push each other on the swings and merry-go-round. Climb the jungle gym, play hopscotch, jump rope or walk using stilts. get a big pad of paper and crayons and draw each other. 

Trade stories about your childhood: What were your favourite toys, which teachers did you like best and what kind of trouble did you get into. Pack your favourite childhood snacks. My personal favourite is -Flings and Fizzers!

Romantic Date 23 - Camping?

Set up camp

Camping with your partner can be romantic but who says you need to leave home to do it? 

If you aren't the outdoor adventure type or just don't have time to get to the great out doors build a tent out of sheets and chairs in your living room. 

Make s'mores, play a CD of nature sounds as background music. Share a sleeping bag or blankets. Turn out the lights, light candles or use flashlights. Watch a scary movie, make up ghost stories and hold each other tight. 

Romantic Date 22 - Date Replay

First date replay

If you've been together for a while relive your first date by revisiting the same places you first went together. 

Talk about how your romance has blossomed since then and what attracted you to each other on that first date. 

If you're in a new relationship start a diary - keep movie stubs etc. Record highlights. Use it when you have forgotten. Be careful you aren't considered a stalker. 

Romantic Date 21 - Feel the wind in your hair

Highway to Love

Rent a convertible or sports car and go for a drive on the open road. 

Be sure to to wear shades and sun screen. Play your favourite tunes and pack a picnic. 

For a more wallet friendly version test drive your dream car at a local dealership. 

Romantic Date 20 - Thrill Seekers

Thrill Seekers

Break out of the dinner and a movie routine and plan a daring date. 

Try a trapeze class, climb a volcano, ride the biggest roller coaster, take a weekend wilderness survival course, go white-water kayaking or sign up for a daylong race car driving session. 

Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new together will give your relationship a real adrenalin rush - and a hint of danger can be very sexy. 

Romantic Date 19 - Strawberries and Cream

Tutti Frutti

Build a date around a piece of fruit. 

Go apple picking, drink cider and bake a pie with your bounty. 

Attend a grape crush at a vineyard. Carve pumpkins together. Make fresh lemonade and sip them from a tall glass on the patio. 

Pick strawberries (there is a farm around Johannesburg where you can do this but I couldn't find the details, so please let me know) and eat them with pancakes or sugar or cream. 

Romantic Date 18 - Kiss me quick!

Kissing Signals

Before you and your partner go out for the evening make a pact to kiss each time someone - the waiter, a guest at a party or anyone else you encounter - says a certain word or phrase or each time you see a particular item. 

Stick with a kissing theme for the whole date. 

Romantic Date 17 - Silence is Golden

Say nothing at all

Discover the sexiness of silence. 

Plan a date during which neither of you are allowed to speak. Figure out alternatives to verbal communication. 

Use your bodies, make up your own hand signs or scribble notes. 

Spend the afternoon in a row boat. Soak in a hot tub and listen to music. Go on a hike and pay attention to the sounds. Make notes as you go along.

At the end of the date break the silence and discuss all the happenings. 

Romantic Date 16 - Make a dream come true

A Dream Come True

Make your partners wildest dream a reality. I've always wanted to own a Tutu.

This dream could be something they've been talking about for ages, or it could be a childhood fantasy you learn about from family or friends - commit to making it real. 

Enlist whatever help you need but keep the whole thing secret until the big event. 

Romantic Date 15 - Hold On!

Hold on!

Have a date that's all about holding hands as much as possible - you may even notice other people smiling at how romantic a gesture this is. 

Go for a walk, stroll along the beach or track through a museum. 

Back home give each other hand massages and then wrap your hands in hot towels sprinkled with lavender or lemon juice or smother them with a rich moisturizer. Massage each other's hands until the moisturizer disappears and you're simply left holding each other's hands.

Romantic Date 14 - Modern Adventurers

Be modern adventurers

Play Burton and Livingstone in your own back garden and plan a date devoted to exploring areas in your city or province that you have never seen before. 

Drive down a road in your town that you've never traveled before but always thought about or didn't even know was there. 

You might find a hole in the wall cafe, a wonderful antique shop, a beautiful row of houses or a scenic vista. Ask friends, read guide books or local magazines for ideas.

Romantic Date 13 - Wet and Wild

Wet and Wild

Next time raindrops fall, grab your partner for a spontaneous barefoot run through the wet grass and a long kiss in the rain. 

Or on a hot summer day make a mad dash through the sprinkler holding hands. If you have a private yard do it in the buff!

Romantic Date 12 - Love Potion

Love Potion

Gather a stash of your favourite drink ingredients and spend an evening mixing, tasting and perfecting your own signature cocktail. It doesn't have to have alcohol in it. 

It can be a smoothie or energy drink. Have plenty of ice, clean cocktail glasses, bar towels, and extras like lemon and limes on hand. 

Make toasts, sentimental and funny - to each other. Next time you're at your favourite bar teach the bartender to make your signature drink so he'll know what to make when you say - 'Our usual please!'

Happy Valentine's Day from Lola Montez

It's Valentine's day

Gifts for Valentine Day

If you have forgotten what today and have not even bought a chocolate - best pop in to Lola Montez and pick up a little something special. 

We have a variety of hampers for him and her. Guaranteed to ensure that you will get lucky!

Romantic Date 11 - Pieces of a Puzzle

Pieces of Love

Buy a small puzzle and use a marker to write an invitation for a special date on the back of it. 

Over the course of the week deliver pieces of the puzzle to your partner. 

The day before the date, send your partner the final piece to solve where and when the date is. The date itself can be a puzzling activity - go to a murder mystery dinner, a costume ball or cuddle up and work on a giant puzzle. 

Romantic Date 10

Message in a Bottle

Grab an empty wine bottle and head for the beach at dusk.

Take a warm blanket and a thermos of tea (or tequila) and then write a message or poem describing you and your partner. Also include a good luck message for whoever finds the bottle. You might want to add an email address so the finder can let you know where the bottle has finally washed up. 

If you are no where near a beach repeat the process - write a note to each other, read it and then place inside the bottle. Break it open and read when you need to or on a special anniversary.

Adult toy of the month - Cock Rings

Introducing the VCR (Vibrating Cock Ring)

Je Joue Mio - Vibrating Cock Ring

A Lola Montez BEST SELLER!

Maybe you use them on occasion, maybe you don’t. Cock rings are one of those precious gems that most of us know about but never actually use, which is a shame. Rocco Siffredi, one of the most well known adult film stars and director is known for using a cock ring and let’s face it this is where men learn how to have sex!

Using a cock ring helps:

          * Stay ultra hard.

          * Helps him to last longer.

          * Intensifies your orgasm.

          * Make the unit bigger (temporarily).

          * Turn HIM into the vibrator – Oh Yeah!

Watch our YouTube Video on types & uses of Cock Rings.

Selecting a Good Cock Ring

Don’t go and randomly buy a cock ring! Just like picking out a pair of jeans, you need to take a couple of factors into account if you want to find the perfect cock ring for you. Consider how much you want to spend. One's that charge cost considerably more than battery operated ones as do rings in metal versus rubber.

Besides the stretchy vibrating types there are Essensually two types of cock rings:

·         Cock rings that are placed over the penis alone, at the base of the shaft.

·         Cock rings that are placed over the penis, as well as the scrotum (balls).

Which one should you buy? Only you will know because - It’s all about personal preference. 

We recommend you experiment and get one or both before deciding permanently on which one will be your ultimate ‘wing man’.

Here are a few considerations:

Materials

There are several different types of material used in the manufacture of Cock Rings. Whether they vibrate or not also affects which material is used.  

Metal

  

You often see cock rings that are made of some metal. Especially now that the whole 50 Shades of Grey erotic novel hit the scene, marketers are targeting guys to ‘live up’ to the bondage element in the book, Christian Grey, offering a wide variety of ‘hardcore’ cock rings made out of metal. Don’t fall in this marketing trap.

Metal cock rings can be dangerous because unless there is a ‘lock’ at the bottom (which most of them don’t have), it can be a disaster in case you stay hard for whatever reason and want to get it off- you simply won’t because the material can’t bend (obviously). Don't panic!

Word of Caution: If you cannot get the ring off take a Disprin or Asprin which will thin the blood and help. Use lots of lube –it’s a bit like getting a ring off your finger.

Leather

Another type of material you often see is leather. They usually come with a belt-like buckle or a Velcro strip to adjust the grip. Though it is nice to be able to adjust the tightness of the ring, it is usually a hassle to get them on and finally get the right intensity of ‘tightness’.

Silicone/Rubber

  

The great thing about silicone/rubber based cock rings is that they are flexible and adjust to your size automatically because the material goes right back to its original size when stretched out. This makes it easier to use in the heat of the moment and allows for a better fit. This is also the material used for the vibrating variety and a Lola Montez favourite!

How to use a Cock Ring

Place the cock ring on the penis when semi erect around the base (or base & testicles if you got that variant). If you are using a the vibrating variety keep the battery pack at the top (facing the belly Button) this will give her immense pleasure. You can also turn it around and let the vibration tickle your testicles. Keep an eye on the time for obvious health considerations. When it turns blue - you've had enough. 

I often suggest that cock rings can also be used around the fingers for a variety of different play, so use your imagination.

Selecting the Right Size

Selecting the right size is really only important if you are using a solid or metal ring. You don’t want one that is too tight because that will cause pain after ten to fifteen minutes (especially when taking it off) and you don’t want one that is too loose because that won’t help you that much.

As a general guideline:

·         If it hurts after wearing it for 5-10 minutes – its too tight.

·         If it hardly helps you get harder – it’s too loose.

You could measure your girth with a non stretch piece of string (when fully erect) and you will have a general guideline.

After use make sure to clean them afterwards with some warm water & soap or disinfection spray try Eva. Before using it again give it a rinse, especially if you have stored it in a red sock under the green jersey.

As a newby try the Bunny VCR it will make you go from zero to hero in only a couple of seconds. Then you can move onto something more substantial. 

TOP TIP: Remember to trim your pubes because they can get caught up in the process and if you scream like a little girl... not sexy!

Romantic Date 9

Play Hooky

Take a break from your usual weekday routine. 

If you can take a vacation day midweek together. While its business as usual for everyone else, you and your partner are shaking things up in your own little universe. 

You'll feel a thrill writing your own 'get out of jail free' pass for the day and doing whatever your hearts desire. Go to the movies, have a lazy three hour lunch, spend the afternoon in bed. 

Don't try to do a zillion things instead relax and see where it takes you. 

Romantic Date 8

A Classy Affair

Choose an activity neither of you have ever tried before and master it. 

The new experience will be yours as a couple, you'll be on an equal footing learning it and it can be something to look forward to. 

Try Italian cooking (any cooking really), glass blowing, banjo playing, rock climbing, photography, massage or scuba dive. And then plan something with your new found skill - dinner party, holiday, concert. 

Romantic Date 7

Built for Two

Rent a tandem bicycle and ride along the beachfront if you are lucky enough or a bike park. 

You'll have fun and you will have to work on your communication skills and rely on teamwork. The heavier of the two goes in front - you have to let the partner at the back know there is an obstacle coming or that you need to stop. 

Take snacks and a drink. If you really want to giggle - dress the same!

Romantic Date 6

Something to talk about.

We are always rushing off to do something and never really take the time to talk to each other. 

Now is the time - once a week once every two weeks or once a month it really is important. 

So set up a time just to talk - walk in the park, sit in the garden or curl up on the couch and TALK. Ban all talk about the children, sport, work or TV. 

So what is left you may ask? Talk about your relationship and life. Talk about what you like about each other, what you do well together and things you would like to do in the future. As you get more intimate you may want to share sexual fantasies that you were always to shy to talk about (Just remember the 3 drawer rule - read about it on the Lola Montez Web site). And don't forget to really listen. 

Romance is not dead.

Romantic date 5

Afternoon Delight

During a very boring work week meet up with your partner to do some sexy lingerie shopping - try Lola Montez. 

Change into the newly purchased items and then head straight back to work. You'll each have a secret to keep you smiling all afternoon. 

Romantic Date 4

Spell it out

Find a creative way to say 'I love you' - 

Perhaps you could use shells or golf balls. Or before a romantic walk or drive strategically place a sign along the route. 

Place a personal advert in the paper your partner reads, leave a note in the briefcase, lunch box or jacket pocket. When cooking use the peas, mash or fries. 

At bed time use rose petals - silk ones work best - available at Lola Montez. Mmm.

Romantic Date 3

Take it off!

Plan a night of striptease fun and games. 

Play strip poker or watch your favourite TV show or movie (even a rugby game works) and remove an item of clothing each time the character you picked says a particular word or phrase. You can pick an item (cell phone, gun, beach etc). 

Pop into Lola Montez and find yourself a sexy game if you cannot come up with any ideas of your own.

Once you are fully undressed move onto another game - naked twister or any other full body contact you can think of.

Romantic Date 2

Good in bed

Have a breakfast date in bed. 

Make up the bed with fresh, crisp linen. Prepare heart shaped pancakes or French Toast together with fresh fruit, warm muffins and champagne and orange juice. 

Serve on trays with a vase of flowers, linen napkins and your iPad or newspaper which you will read to each other. (Erotica always works). 

After the feast you may want to nap, do a crossword, cuddle or something more... intimate! 

How to play and stay together.

Couples who play together - Stay together.

I've often wondered what it is that keeps couples together and I'm not talking about those couples who stay together 'for the children' or because they cannot afford to get divorced. I'm talking about those couples who beam and giggle and appreciate each other. 

I've watched those happy couples and here is one thing that I have noticed - they play together.

An outsider can see the electricity between them and more important - the intimacy between them. Emotional intimacy, commitment, trust and meaningful communication seems to encourage and enhance their sense of fun.

I've also noticed that each part of the pair is independent and confident. They both have equal power in the relationship. They can drift apart at a function and then come back together and there is never any doubt that they are there together.

I have no doubt that they can both spend time alone. Solitude gives us the space we need for reflection and growth. It gives us a place to think about how things are and what part we play in them. Respecting your partner's alone time requires trust.

And then you have to spend time together and I don't mean in the same room distracted and self absorbed. 

Set aside at least 20 minutes a day to connect and date night once a week. This is the time when neither of you look at your phone, email, messages, Whatsap, Facebook or Twitter. 

Sometimes I think we are more intimate with our gadgets than we are with our partners. I don't remember the last time I was in a restaurant when one or both of the couples I have watched have not been busy on their phone and ignoring their beautiful partner with them at the table. You will not die if you don't look at your phone for an hour or two!

Compliment your partner. I read an alleged quote by Brad Pitt, he was talking about his relationship with Angelina Jolie. He said that she was getting really thin, was slipping into depression and a couple of other things I cannot remember and he didn't know how to fix it. Then he remembered that he was married to the most beautiful woman in the world and he needed to remind her. So he started buying her flowers, telling her how beautiful she is, what a great mum, what a fantastically sexy wife and he took every opportunity to speak about her to everybody about how great she is. And she responded positively.

I think relationships can be really easy - Men want to be desired and women want to be gorgeous. Just imagine the fun we could have with our partner if this is how they made us feel. Just remember that words alone don't count - it's the way you say it and the things you do to support the words that count too.

OhmiBod Club Vibe

Make an effort. Stay connected during the day. Now you are allowed to play with your trusty smart phone. Send a message - photo - quote, anything that will indicate that you may be up for it. Buy a sexy pair of panties, a new toy from Lola Montez. Book a couples evening to learn a new trick or two.

Je Joue Mio VCR

Learn to give and receive love. We are usually very good at giving and very bad at receiving. I'm told that it has something to do with self esteem. 

Intimacy begins with being comfortable with who you are. If you are too afraid to reveal the true you you will never feel safe enough to discuss your desires or fears never mind sharing and playing out fantasies. If you are too afraid to share the vulnerable bits you will never be able to play together.

Don't ever make fun of or humiliate your partner. NOT EVER. The damage you will do to your relationship will be irreparable. Before you play you need to know you are safe and that your partner is going to laugh with you not at you.

Be silly together. When last did you dance in the rain? Lie on the lawn and look at the clouds or the stars? Picnic in the middle of the lounge with no TV? Have sex in the Kitchen or on the bathroom floor? Send the children to friends for a couple of hours so you can have slow afternoon sex? Well now is the time.

Every day this month I am going to post a date idea for you to try. Save them, remember them and by all means do them.

February is the Month of Love. May this month of love be a rebirth and a commitment to more fun because we all know that couples who play together - stay together!

Romantic Date 1

Anticipation:

Make a pact not to get together or if you live together not to be intimate - for a week! There's still plenty of time before the big day (Valentine's day).

Instead just talk, email and SMS.

Talk about what you'd like to do. Plan something really special for the end of the week - Sunset drinks with a view, go dancing or eat take out on the lawn. 

Having something to look forward to will always give you a thrill and absence can make the heart grow fonder.