The Best Oral Sex and How to get it!

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Romantic date - Date in a Box

Date in a Box

This can also work if you are involved in a long distance relationship. 

You can have a great date and 'meet' anywhere in the world. Think of a destination you'd both love to visit. Then send a package of items related to your chosen hot spot with a note on the outside of the box not to open it until your partner receives a call from you. 

For example: If you've always wanted to go to Mexico send your partner a package with a picture of you wearing a sombrero - then include a sombrero in the box. A CD of Mexican songs, a Mexican Flag, some edible treats and Tequila! Add pictures of tourist spots, fun facts about these places. 

If you are far away from each other you can take a 'walk' through these places over the phone. Or sit side by side on the couch. 

Oral Sex Positions - 4

We all deserve the best blow job ever! Try all the positions I've shared with you over the past week. These are the last two in our arsenal!

On The Edge Of The Bed

You can use the edge of the bed during cunnilingus easily. The bed is a great tool to use if you want to get into different oral sex positions, because it’s height, size and shape is perfect. However, remember that you don’t always both need to be on the bed to utilize it. Have your partner lie down on the bed with his head as close to the edge as possible. In fact, he may need to scoot up enough so that most of his head is actually off the bed. You’re going to come in and straddle his face while standing!

Variation: Prop one of your legs up on the bed and lower yourself down onto his face. This may be a little difficult for you to do, but the end result is worth it! He’ll love the full view of your vulva above him!

The New “Woman On Top”

While sixty-nine is a great way to both give and receive oral sex at the same time, if a woman just wants to receive (or a guy just wants to give), this is probably not the way to go. Instead, the woman will lie on top of the man facing the ceiling, scooting her genitals up to his face. Her head will probably rest on or close to his penis, but this one is all about her!

Variation: Lift up your legs to expose your anus to your partner for anal play!

Hope you've enjoyed the tips now go and try them all - Let me know which ones worked best for you.

More Positions for the Best Oral Sex - 3

Next in our series of delicious positions.

A New Twist On Oral Sex - Missionary.

The missionary version of oral sex positions is where the woman is lying down and the man lies on his stomach with his face buried deep in between her legs. While this is an excellent way to reach orgasm during oral sex – after all, there’s a reason it’s considered a “classic” – there are different things you can do with it to make it even more fun. After you lie down, bring your legs together and then raise them up, bringing your knees close to your stomach. Your legs should still be together. This allows your man to come up underneath your legs and lick your vulva. Have him bury his tongue deep in your folds, because light licking isn’t going to do the trick here with your legs pressed together.

Variation: Rest your legs on his shoulders when you get tired of holding them up. This will make it easier for him to go down on you, and it will be more comfortable for you when you get closer and closer to orgasm.

Sitting…On His Face

You’ve probably heard of this one, but it’s not played out just yet. Sitting on a man’s face is incredibly erotic for a woman, especially if she’s into domination and he’s into submission. After giving your man a blowjob with him lying down, crawl up his body and plant your genitals right on his face. He’ll love the idea of you grinding against his face while he’s eating you out.

Variation: Do a “reverse cowgirl” sort of move and face his feet instead. This is a great way to do it if you both love anal play, or at least don’t mind it.

Last two positions tomorrow - Don't miss it!

Best Positions for Oral Sex 2

Read yesterday's blog for the first two positions that make cunnilingus delicious. 

Here are two more:

Sitting With Legs Spread Wide

Sit up on a couch or chair and spread your legs as wide as you can, making your entire genital area open to your partner. Have him kneel down or sit on the floor, about eye level with your vulva. He can reach you easily this way, both with his mouth and his hands – which comes in “handy” for fingering. This is actually a very comfortable position for both you and your partner, provided that you’re both at the right level. If either of you is stretching up or hunched down to get in this position, try to find another chair or place to sit where you can be more comfortable.

Variation: Try spreading your vaginal lips with your fingers while your partner goes down on you. Not only will he love having full access to your lady parts, he’ll also love how unabashed and naughty this move is.

On The Side

This too is one of the most comfortable oral sex positions both for the giver and the receiver. Lie on your side on the bed or couch and have your partner lie upside down behind you. He should be facing your rear. Lift up the leg that is not on the bed and hold it high either with your hands or with some kind of restraint (which could be even more fun with a little bondage!) He’s going to slide his head in between your legs, bringing his face around to meet your genitals. He can rest his head and neck on your thigh while he eats you out.

Variation: Once he’s going down on you, release your leg and rest it on his shoulders. This gives him less access to your vulva, but it does give your leg a rest!

Even more positions coming tomorrow!

Positions for the Best Oral Sex

I'm always writing about how we (the fairer sex) can improve their techniques for their partner's maximum pleasure. So today we change it around. These positions are perfect for oral sex on us girls!

I'm also going to cheat. There is absolutely no reason to reinvent the wheel so what you are about to read was written by Kaylen Jackson. 

Oral sex can get boring for women if she’s always lying down to receive. While oral sex is great in just about every shape or form, you can really heat things up with different oral sex positions. In fact, when your partner is going down on you in a variety of different ways, the same moves and techniques can actually feel totally different. Try these new oral sex positions to make him going down on you a lot more fun!

Standing Up

Guys will often get a blowjob standing up – but because a woman’s genitals don’t “stick out” like a man’s does, a woman doesn’t often get to stand while receiving oral sex. Next time your man goes down on you, suggest that he goes “up” on you instead! Stand over his head and let him come up underneath you to pleasure you with his mouth.

Variation: Prop your leg up on a table or a chair to allow him full and total access to your genitals. He’ll love being able to really see what he’s doing down there!

Down And Dirty Doggy Style

If your guy doesn’t mind being close to your back door entrance – or if he enjoys giving you analingus at the same time he’s going down on you – doggy style is definitely right up your alley. Kneel on all fours just as you would if you and your partner were going to have sex and he’s going to enter you from behind. Instead of penetrating you with his penis, he’ll actually bring his face down there and lick and suck you from behind. Seriously though, if your guy is back door shy, stay away from this one.

Variation: Have him flip over on his back and slide up underneath you, facing your genitals. He can give you oral sex this way, without being so involved with your behind.

Two more great positions tomorrow - tell your friends!

Top tips to being the Oral Sex Goddess!

It’s a Gift

This may come as a surprise but oral sex is a gift, not an obligation and as with any gift, if you don't enjoy giving it, the value is greatly diminished. So either reconsider or learn some techniques that will make it pleasurable.

Since it is a gift, you are the one making the choices. You are not obligated to do any particular technique or to allow him to use you as an object.

Some men grab onto a woman's head during oral sex and start thrusting. If you don't like something he's doing, let him know and move on to something else. This is your gift.

The Goddess is in Charge

Part of what really turns a man on about oral sex is that he is giving up control to someone else. A large part of the sexual experience is that exchange of power. When it comes to sex, women don’t often realise it but they have an enormous amount of power.

So, as you perform oral sex make sure that he knows that you are in charge of the process, that you are confident in your ability to bring him to orgasm on your terms and your timing, and that he can trust you to give him a better orgasm than he's ever had before.

Men Are Visual Creatures

Men love to look. They process a lot of their information directly through their eyes. So, if you want to give your partner a super experience, provide visuals for him. Look him in the eye and use your face to convey your enjoyment of what you are doing and the way he's responding. The look you’re aiming for is the same as when you spot the best pair of shoes you have ever seen.

Position yourself so that he gets a good look at you, particularly the areas he's attracted to, such as the breasts.

Recreating the Vagina

When you are giving a blow job you are creating the sensation of being inside a vagina—without actually using a vagina so pressure and wetness are important.

Ideally, vaginas fit snugly around the penis. This translates into the sensations of friction (rubbing) and pressure. So you want to match the sensation with your hands or lips and tongue.

An aroused vagina is wet. Using lubricant on your hands is an essensual. Spit will work but it’s just not sexy!

  

Communication Is Key

When you are giving a hand or blow job, it's paramount that you maintain communication with your partner so that you can find out what works and what doesn't in arousing him and controlling the pace of the orgasm.

Men focus on the experience, rather than the techniques. The best place to have him is at that point when he doesn't know whether he wants to watch or close his eyes and feel. 

Chances are that afterwards, he won't remember exactly what happened, how it happened, or when. You'll need to keep track of that, so that you can continue to improve your technique.

Methods of communication that you can use:

Eye contact - One of the secrets to great oral sex is making eye contact with your lover. When you look at him, you can gauge his responses better. This will help you learn what works and what doesn't.

By looking at him, you can communicate your enjoyment in pleasing him. He needs to know that you like pleasuring him. It helps to establish your control over the situation.

Facial Expression - Along with eye contact, use your face to show how much you are enjoying yourself. Imagine yourself a film actress and that you are a giving a close-up just for him.

Body Language - Your body can express a lot just in the way you are sitting or moving. If you lean towards him, you'll convey your desire to be closer to him. If you move back, you can signal your desire to slow down.

Your hands can speak, with the way they touch him. But don't think you are limited to hands. You have arms, feet, legs, and torso to work with. Be imaginative.

Verbalization - Finally, there is verbalization. Words, talking, even moans or grunts can convey much of what you are feeling.

Ask him questions. Ask if he likes what you're doing. Ask him if he wants more. Ask him to tease you or stimulate you back. Tell him what to do. Use your voice to control him.

Tease him by telling him what you are planning to do. Don't be afraid to talk dirty to him. A lot of men love that. Praise him, especially his penis. Express your amazement at its size, power, hardness.

Listen for the ‘dolphin’ – the high pitched double squeak. It usually means NO! You’re in the wrong place.

Lubricant, Lubricant and did I mention lubricant! Lubrication makes everything easier. The more moisture you have around, the easier it is to slide your hands over the penis, or to move the penis into your mouth.

When you become sexually aroused, you'll produce a wetness that is the perfect natural lubricant. The trouble, you can't always produce it on demand. 

Another natural lubricant is saliva but as I’ve said before – spitting in your hand is just not sexy! Keep trying to salivate all night and you'll end up dehydrated so just get yourself a good lube. 

Try a flavoured lube from Intimate Organics or a Montez Play Water Based Lubricant. 

Next time - Oral sex techniques.

Romantic Date - The Gift of Giving

The Gift of Giving

There are many ways to give in a relationship whether you make a gift of your time, talents, touch, attention, or financial resources. 

Sometimes it means giving up something you want for yourself like skipping an important event in order to be present at an important birthday party or forgoing some appliance so you can both go on a much deserved vacation.  

You'll discover that it is just as good to give as to receive. 

Blow Jobs - Some ideas.

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Rage!

I’m going off the reservation today. I have this rage boiling inside of me that just needs an outlet – so here goes!

What is it that makes people think that they can have what I do for free or that they are entitled to assume that I have lower morals than anyone else? (that’s a whole other rage).

I have 12 years of experience in the adult industry and during that period grown a reputable brand that specialises in adult toys. We know our stuff. We are professional, educated and specialists in our field but because it has to do with the adult industry it has to be treated with disrespect. I thought this would get better but it’s not, it seems to be getting worse!

As part of our service offering we do parties for groups of girls and sometimes couples. A Lola Montez Consultant arrives at your home, does a display, a talk, a demo and then takes orders. The problem is that we are seen as the entertainment – the party clown if you will.

Guests get to touch and feel, occasionally break, damage and open sealed goods and laugh. Some openly try to shame what we do. Others merely show disrespect by talking or texting during the presentation. Now I’m all about fun and making sex something to talk about and one of the ways to do that is to be funny. But we are not merely the entertainment. Our primary business, the one that pays the bond, school fees and groceries is selling sex toys.

No sales – no earn, it really is as simple as that.

Over the years we have instituted a sales target for parties. If we sell more than R3000 worth of toys at the party, the party is free, if not there is a R1000 fee. R3000 is equivalent to one We Vibe, two bunny cock rings and a couple of lubes. So when people start arguing about the R1000 I know they have no intention of buying and that we are being considered as cheap entertainment.

A clown for your child’s party will cost you R2500. Get a dancer – R1800. A Jumping Castle also costs and you bear the cost for damages. So why do people expect us to entertain them for free? 

And my very best – ‘our guests are very conservative so please don’t bring any toys!’ We sell toys- that’s our business! If you don’t want toys you’re hiring the wrong company.

One enquiry which has set off this tirade asked – ‘Why should I pay you to come and sell to me?’  - Here is the answer – you don’t have to pay me if you get your friends to buy R3000 worth of toys. Now the fact that you are terrified that you will have to pay R1000, for two and a half hours of my time, not including petrol, time away from my family and travelling time, means you and your guests have no intention of buying. You think that I can come and entertain you – for free!

I don’t mind being snubbed or pointed at because of what I do. I will not apologise. I believe that I make the world a better place and that my product and knowledge adds value to your relationships. If I still practiced as an attorney I would be charging in excess of R2000 an hour.

But you want me to come and entertain you for free? I don’t think so!

Romantic Date - Young Love

Young Love

If you don't have kids yet volunteer together to baby sit a friend's child or a young relative. 

Plan an activity you know the child will love. A trip to an amusement park or zoo.

Chances are you'll learn something new about your partner when you see them playing with a  child. You'll both have an excuse to regress and run around a playground. 

Not a good idea if you dislike children!

Romantic Date - Downward Dog

Downward Dog

Take a Yoga or Pilates class for couples together. 

You'll learn a series of stretches that you and your partner can do together. Practice the stretches in beautiful settings. 

As you get in touch with your bodies you might feel inspired to learn more about meditation, breathing techniques and tantric sex. 

Okay let's not get me started about Tantra!