Orgasms – the good, the bad and the great!
Part 2
How to find your Orgasm?
So now we have
identified some of the reasons you cannot orgasm we can try to help you along
the path to great orgasms.
The medical complications
are the easiest to deal with. A visit to your GP, tweaking your medication,
sorting out hormone levels is relatively easy to do although many cannot talk
to their doctor about the problems they are experiencing – it means you have to
talk about sex!
We refer our clients
to a sex positive GP we work with and if you want her number just give the Lola
Montez Boutique a call on 0861 LOLAMO and we’ll refer you.
Sexual technique is
another easy fix. We’ll talk to you about trying different positions, learning
new foreplay techniques and how to communicate your needs to your partner.
Try watching Yoni or
Lingam Massage DVD’s available in store or read the tips and techniques regularly
shared on this blog.
It’s when we get to
the mental issues that things get a bit more difficult to resolve. If issues
are related to abuse, mental or physical we urge you to seek professional help
and again we have several sexologists and therapists we can refer you to. We
will also give you some sound solid advise and homework.
The homework starts
with you coming to terms with your body.
You need to start looking at yourself
naked and while you’re at it have a really good look at your genitals.
The
easiest way to do this is to lie in an empty bath. Get your mirror and have a
really good look at your vagina. Get your fingers involved. Find your clitoris
and see how much it looks like a mini penis. Pull the hood back, check your
inner and outer labia (the lips). You may need a bit of lube to make it more
pleasurable. Try the Montez Play Water Based Lubricant. Check out your vagina
entrance and if you’re brave enough insert your fingers and feel how wonderful,
soft and velvety your vagina is.
If you are feeling too
uncomfortable - stop. There is always later.
Repeat until you are
completely comfortable with the process.
Then it’s time to move
on – while your fingers are inside see if you can find your G-Spot and then
find out what makes you feel good. Everyone’s body is different. Your special
spot may be two fingers up and one finger over. If you know what feels good and
where to find it you’ll know how to guide your partner.
Try to bring yourself
to orgasm just using your hand. If you can great – keep practicing.
If you still can’t
find your orgasm bring out the big guns - The Fairy Wand.
This is a multi speed
vibrator in the likeness of the Hitachi Wand. It is electrical so it never goes
flat. We love the Fairy Wand for clitoral stimulation because it does not look
like a penis but rather like a massager you can use on sore muscles.
This is important especially
if you have preconceived ideas about vibrators. We love it more because its
vibration is so strong that you needn’t put it anywhere near your genital area
to receive extreme pleasure from it.
And if at first you don’t succeed – just keep
trying. But don’t chase the orgasm just enjoy the journey and the rest will
follow. When you feel yourself starting to peak finish the orgasm with your
hand because let’s face it – your partner is never going to vibrate.
Now you know what you
are looking for – it’s time to introduce your partner to the party. We recommend
using toys as a special treat. Show your partner what you’ve learnt and guide
him.
Use the vibrator to get you close to orgasm and then let your partner take
you over – win – win!
